To me there's a couple of ways to go about this. If say, I were to join a flashpoint group specifically so I can get gear for my companion, I believe me or anyone else in that position has every right to select Need for it. After all, it is the reason I joined and I played as hard as everyone else for it, didn't I? However, if you do a flashpoint and something drops and you realise that your companion could really use that, then I think the player who actually needs it should have a better shot at it first. But in the end I think the problem is honesty and communication. Something to consider is to mention to your group that your intention from the start is to get gear for your companion. Some people can be reasonable and would be okay with it. If someone doesn't like the idea perhaps you can discuss it with each other or do the flashpoint again until you both get what you want. Great way to make friends and establish communication. Then again, as I said before...the problem with a lot of people is communication. Some do it poorly or not at all and that's when things get messy.