I'm a relatively fresh 55 merc healer and I have been having a somewhat common experience running 55 HM flashpoints. The experience is as follows:
1.) We come across a relatively large trash pull, 5-ish mobs, sometimes more, sometimes with strong or better mobs.
2.) as the tank proceeds into the fray, I use my supercharge cylinder and fire off both my relic and triage adrenal, knowing that the tank is about to take some massive damage.
3.) as expected, the tank starts gettng hit hard so I heal him with everything I have, first casting kolto missile, immediately followed by healing scan, rapid scan, and if necessary either emergency scan or another healing scan
4.) within a second or two, multiple mobs are now attacking me and the punishment is pretty severe. I use my energy shield and medpac to preserve my own life, LOS them if I can, use my threat dump if I can spare the GCD - whatever I can do to preserve both my own life and the tank's
5.) my efforts at keeping the group up fail horribly, either the tank dies or I do (usually both), followed shortly by the dps
6.) the tank either ragequits or initiates a vote to have me kicked from the group.
Now I should mention that neither I nor the tank is undergeared in these encounters, I myself am wearing gear which has, with but 1 or 2 exceptions, 69 level mods in all slots, with reflex augment 28's in all slots. The tanks are always geared as well, often better than am I.
I should also mention that this does not happen every single time, but often enough that it is extremely frustrating, both to myself and to the other members of the group. There are at least as many times where the overwhelming majority of the damage is on the tank, and a manageable amount spills over onto myself/dps.
At first, I just thought this was bad tanking, that there's no way I should be drawing this much threat only healing, even though healing does generate a high amount of threat. But then I had this exact same thing happen with a tank in my guild, a tank whom I have seen in action and know that he is not a bad tank. This of course leads me to conclude, given that the only common denominator in all these failures is myself, that the failure is in fact my own.
Is there something that I am doing horribly wrong in the above scenario? And if so, any helpful advice would by much appreciated.