There was a time that I cared about hardcore raiding, still never used damage meters and our guild was generally in the top 5 on the server as well. When Cata come out, the raiding got tedious and all I really wanted to do was play the game.
You can progress on Hard modes without damage meters, and if you are really hardcore that's how you should play, no addons at all, and yes, EQ raids were harder than WoW raids for the following reasons:
1) getting 75 people gathered together to do the raid
2) getting to the boss before other guilds on the server got there and took it down
3) setting up tank rotation and healing rotation (without using any healing addons) and keeping the timing down, hoping you don't fizzle a cast (like you can't do now) and if it fizzled, you scrambled to keep the tank up
4) the sheer amount of time, 4-5 hours just to get to the boss, take 20 minutes to kill the boss and get 4-5 pieces of loot.
So yes, I would say that EQ raids were harder when I played them.