My wife and I have been playing since The Matrix Online together. At first she got a lot of what the OP was talking about, "OMG, you're really a girl." That was before we got married in game. When we moved to WoW, AoC, Warhammer we saw the same things. After we got into the right guilds it all stopped. There will always be the little boys that get on Vent or TS and will Scream with their pre-pubescent voices, "OMG, you're really a girl!" That will always happen when you run a FP/WZ with someone new. But as long as you keep the right people around you it will happen less each time. My wife got tired of it in MxO and finally I had to tell everyone in guild to stop pestering her in a long post on our guild forums. You might need something like that.

It was Jedi and I was six or seven. My dad bought me Star Wars toys before I ever saw Jedi. I Ewoks scared me when I saw it, but I thought Chewbacca was cool. Been a fan ever since. Now my son is into Star Wars.