Definitely check out Pillars of Ashla (forum recruitment thread and website). It sounds like we share similar values in gaming. Real-life always come first and guild members are understanding and accommodating.
We have 2 progression nights per week for members who are end-game focused (currently Republic only, Imperial ones starting soon, as well as casual, fun op nights. We have a small group of PVP players, but would love to have more! There are also many casual, laid back people who just want to level, run flashpoints, work on conquest goals, or just hang out. If you have any questions, you can /cjoin poa and talk with guild members online (peak hours are best), or contact someone through the website or the recruitment thread.