Really good write up, totally summarizes my feelings too.
Next i go "little" OT but still:
Though i have much xp from raiding in Wow (from tbc to cata) i still hesitate doing any pve stuff with randoms if i have not done it before. One mistake can lead to all out nerd-rage though i have not yet encoutered it in old republic, but still.. i somehow fear it and prefer just doing solo stuff.
Funny thing is when i started playing wow back in 07 as a total MMO noob i just wanted to do all group quests and instances even if it went to hell from my part.
Perhaps i demand too much from myself nowdays.
Sry for my "little" rusty english, hope you get the picture anyway. =)