I am confused about the "paying" for early access.
It makes me think that the people complaining aren't the one paying the actual bill.
Or, you haven't looked at your bill perhaps?
I bought 2 copies of the Digital Deluxe game from Origin and on both receipts I have 2 charges:
1. The game for $74.99
2. The pre-order fee $5.00
Then if you read further, you are given a credit/discount for the $5.00.
I have already payed the full price (as expected) for the games, but the pre-order fee is just a method to track when you ordered and generate a unique code to enable your chance at early access.
I don't feel mislead in the least about my purchases, and if my son ever acted the way some people are on these forums right now, I can promise you he would't be playing that second copy of the game any time soon.