Yeah, me too!

I would totally love "custom" customizations, even in limited form (like available for "playable" races only with no race change).

I got impression from the novel, that she waited for him. She became Jedi Master so I assume that she devoted herself into rebulding Jedi Order rather than starting a new relationship.

I think that it is possible for him to start a new relationship, but it would be extremely hard to him to move on from his past. If he indeed survived events on the Foundry, I think he would be in the same emotional state as Bruce Wayne in the beggining of The Dark Knight Rises. Man full of suffering, sense of loss and guilt. He is completely alone. Everyone he knew and loved are gone. I would like to see him find new life. BioWare should focus more on his mental and emotional side, not only how cool or powerful he is.

We should not forget that the Sith were infiltrating Jedi Order and the Republic by centuries. Some of them ( like Barel Ovair) become Jedi scholars. They probably had access to Jedi teachings and knowledge. However, I do not know exactly when their espionage operations has started. That is why I can not confirm this or deny it for 100% sure. So far it is the most logical explanation of events for me. I thought, that the main reason behind Jedi Council "change of heart" were Revan's "heresies" and fear that he will turn many young Jedi against old tradition of the Order, like he did during Mandalorian Wars.