Humans have a reaction time of a few tenths of seconds, can't react instantly to external triggers (and if you think differently you're just plain wrong).
Those who are NOT "spamming" the button of an ability who's cooldown is about to finish are either:
1) Not using their class at their fullest potential, loosing precious time by looking for a cooldown to end, THEN pressing the button (and you loose your reaction time doing nothing)
2) They're not human, and therefore they should stop posting about how lame US poor mortals are playing by spamming our buttons with our human fingers...
As for myself: when CD is about to expire i spam the button 2 to 3 times until the ability is triggered. If you pass from one ability to the next one.... here it comes the wall of red text spam.
Please, Bioware, allow us to turn this off.
It's either useless and annoying.