Ya it does suck when you queue time is over an hour and you only play 3-4 hours for a few nights a week.
I had to deal with that same problem in WoW, STO and Rift. I was lucky enough where I have a lot of playtime or I would have my wife start the queue when I was on my way home from work.
In most MMO's the queue is only around for a few weeks then it gets a lot better, but your only choices will be is to wait or pick another server and play by yourself.
Good Luck!